alya goes to school - the chronicles...

Dec 2012

• melawat kawasan tadika & taska A with alya. clean, tapi kurang ceria. islamic-based.
• decided to proceed, based on komen2 dr org sekeliling (MIL, neighbours etc)
• take form.

Jan 2nd

• register at tadika (830-1130am) and taska A (daycare 1130am-530pm).
• alya berkepit je, nak suruh teman masuk kelas.
• then, bila dia tak sedar, ibu senyap2 keluar.
• dgr dia nangis abt 10mins
• ibu skodeng sekali sekala... alya byk senyap.. and buat hal sendiri dlm klas.
• pengasuh frm daycare report, alya nangis bila nak pee tapi malu nk cakap ;p

Jan 3rd - 7th

• continue sending her there every morning
• same thing... nangis2 bila bgn tido... bila nak mandi... bila kat tadika...
• asyik cakap xnak g skool
• breaks my heart everytime she cries.. but hv to be strong

Jan 8th

• same routine this morning (stressful as always)
• terasa x sampai hati sbb alya mcm terpaksa gi skool
• this morning, i stayed around for a while. masuk ngan dia dlm klas.
• before masuk, aku dgr teacherA tanya teacherB "sapa tu?". teacherB replied "alya". then, teacherA said "oooo yang nangis semalam tu". 
• maybe i'm too sensitive ke ape...tapi bg aku, it's not polite to label like that. why dont u come and fetch her at the door..and pujuk her. kan?
• then we went in... klas dh start masa tu. ada 4org je dlm klas utk 4y.o. then, ada sorg kid ni pandang belakang (ke arah kitorang). then, i heard the teacher said..."wafi, pandang depan. kalau tak cikgu rotan".
• WTH. 4y.o baru kot. xkan ko expect diorg duduk diam mcm university student kot? terus sentap!
• after i managed to sneak out, went inside the car...and.... huaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa!!!! nangis mcm org gile.... thinking have i made a right decision by sending alya here.. or sending alya to school this early (4y.o)???????? nak dekat stgh jam aku nangis...
• after that...mcm autopilot.. drove to tadika B... which i didnt know where exactly that is... nasib baik la tg malim ni kocik aje. dont know why i drive there.
• kebetulan...bila sampai sana.. supervisor tadika ada depan gate. laju je aku kuar keta..ikut dia masuk dalam. we talked about 30mins. aku tanya segala... fees, terms, syllabus... everything that came across my mind. 
• dia tanya "kenapa lambat daftar?" yela... since dh 8hb kan. then, aku pun cite hal sebenar...then, she started to explain psl pendidikan awal kanak2.... wow. her knowledge really amazed me.
• next thing i know... i ask her.."bila alya boleh start?". of course, she can start the day after.
• that night, i talked to husband (dgn air mata meleleh2...buruk rupa). he agreed to give it a try.

Jan 9th

• alya's 1st day at new skool
• nangis jugak...biasa la...tempat baru...
• too early to judge

Jan 10th - 14th

• still nangis.. tp makin lama makin sekejap.
• pagi2 still ngadu xnak g skool... tapi once dh mandi sume.. ok je pakai kasut sendiri..masuk kereta sendiri.
• i googled about other moms experiences psl hantar anak to tadika at 4y.o.
• stumbled upon doa/ayat2 untuk lembutkan hati anak. compile and print them out

Jan15th

• woke up extra early and get ready
• before kejutkan alya... recite the doa/ayat.. and hembus pada alya (with tonnes of kisses)
• ayah pun bgn extra early
• three of us had breakfast together (we rarely had the chance to do so)
• for the 1st time in history... elok je alya x nangis masa aku hantar g skool. elok je salam aku.. and joined her frens main buai).
• alhamdulillah...

it has been 3days... i sticked to doa & breakfast routine. 

insyaAllah...harap consistent.

alhamdulillah.. Allah tunjukkan the incident at previous tadika. and Allah temukan aku dgn this tadika... yg bagi aku jauh lebih baik. why i say so?

• they are registered with Jabatan Pelajaran Perak(tadika) and Jabatan Kebajikan Masyarakat (taska). so, they hv proper syllabus. teachers are trained and attend training every year. building interior and exterior is clean and safe/comply to requirement. JPP/JKM monitor and spot-check the tadika/taska once in a while.
• owner is muslim. supervisor is owner's daughter. so, well-supervised la kan. kata sendiri punya...compared to previous tadika (supervisor is not owner...only work there)
• islamic-based. even during daycare (12pm-530pm), diorg slot in kelas agama (fardhu ain/iqra').
• alternately use malay/english daily.
• junkfood is prohibited, even during birthday parties. 
• ada outdoor activities. ada outdoor playground. every morning ada senaman pagi.
• price? tadika (8am-12pm) + taska (12pm-530pm) = RM220 only. affordable kan? even cheaper than the previous tadika. 
• most importantly... alya said... cikgu budak baik. hehe.

lega ibu.

eh..tak habis cite lagi...hehe.

Jan 11th

• went to tadikaA  (previous tadika)... to cancel and settle.. senang cakap..nak mintak balik duit. hehe.
• supervisor otw datang... so i lepak jap tgu dia.
• join 2 org cikgu tgh sembang ngan kwn depa.. amboi..sempat lg sembang ye.
• dgr sorg budak nangis kat area belakang (near 5y.o class)... dari aku dtg tak henti2 nangis. aku tanye cikgu tu.. sape yg nangis tu.
• dia cakap... "budak 4thn. masa dtg ok. tapi taknak duduk kelas sendiri. tiap2 hari nangis dr pagi sbb nak join kelas kakak dia (5thn). tapi kelas tu kami dh tutup pintu. tu dia nangis sorg2 dia kat luar kelas. biar la... japgi diamla tu."
• ok. fine. japgi diam kot. aku tgu lagi. after a few minutes, tak diam2 jugak budak tu. yg cikgu... no effort nk pujuk...sembang aje. kalau kata dr pagi budak tu nangis.. congak2... dh dekat sejam lebih dh ni.
• aku pun..kesian... pegi la jenguk kat belakang. wah comel budaknya. aku try pujuk... dia cakap "nak kaklong..."... kebetulan ade kereta mainan kecik alya dlm handbag aku... aku pun kasi dia. dlm nangis2 dia ambik. aku dukung dia. tunjuk2 gambar2 sekeliling. trus senyap.
• aku bwk dia g klas dia. duduk sebelah dia. elok je dia ambik pencil colour..and join kwn2 dia colour.
• aku ni... mmg xde bakat ngajar/pujuk budak2 ni... tapi boleh je aku pujuk. x sampai 5minit pun.
• moralnye... kalau cikgu kat situ... yg dh byk pengalaman... patut lg senang la pujuk dia... nak atau taknak je. takpun malas. ha sembang je la ko sukakan.(hangin mode).
• pastu supervisor dia dtg.. aku pun g la jumpa dia.
• aku jenguk, elok je budak tu kat klas. 
• at that time, aku tau, Tuhan nak tunjuk pd aku... i made a right decision. alhamdulillah. semua drNya.

well...

semoga pengalaman aku jd iktibar utk readers sekalian..

moral of story..

• pilih tadika/taska yg sesuai. boleh dgr pendapat org... tapi every child/parent is different. taste dia mungkin bukan taste kita. taste anak dia mungkin bukan taste anak kita. so... go survey. and survey hard.
• kalau boleh, pilih yg registered to Jab Pelajaran and JKM. to be registered, they hv tonnes of rules to obey. JKM/Jab pelajaran also provide FREE trainings. 
• i prefer islamic-oriented tadika. No, tadika alya tak wajibkan pakai tudung. but they teach doa, ayat2 lazim, iqra', solat. lagipun, kalau tadika islam... makanan terjamin halal. just my 2cents.
• never give up. it takes time for them to settle down.
• follow ur instinct. jgn takut nk tukar tadika. xyah berkira sgt la kalau certain fee yg kita byr ms registration diorang kira burn (in my case burn RM255)... it's nothing compared to better place for our child
• most importantly... doa dan usaha. try doa dan usaha dulu... (in my case, dh ditakdirkan tukar tadika dulu...;)). by usaha,i mean... cuba tingkatkan excitement diorg psl tadika. tanya psl tadika... cakap yg baik2 pasal tadika... etc. 
• lastly.... be strong.

p/s : thanks to whatsapp supermoms (Qun & Dza) for ur daily moral support. only Allah can repay ur kindness.